Your own family betrayed you?? Remember, Yusuf (A.S) was betrayed by his own brothers.. Your parents won’t listen to you? Remember Ibrahim’s own father decided to throw him in fire… It was Allaah who made the fire cold for Ibrahim (A.S) and made Yusuf (A.S) the Aziz (Governor) of Egypt….
Sometimes we feel betrayed, depressed, hurt, and thousands of things rushing through our minds….. We feel like no one cares. And in the end we start losing faith in Allaah (swt), we doubt in Allaah’s mercy… Doesn’t matter how blessed we are, we still keep complaining about the things we don’t have….. We want EVERYTHING we DESIRE…. That’s how human nature is..
”And if We give man a taste of mercy from Us and then We withdraw it from him, indeed, he is despairing and ungrateful.” (11:9)
If you say ”I BELIEVE IN ALLAAH” then let remind you that trails will come…. Because Allaah says:
”Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested.” (29:2)
Sometimes what we need is a whole new perspective….
EVERYONE gets hurts AT LEAST once in lifetime by their own family or friends.. That’s all because we all have this perfect picture in our minds of how things are supposed to be and that’s why we all end up being disappointed. But they only thing that matters is How we decide to REACT… How we tackle our situations… Do we learn from our mistakes, or learn from OTHERS’ mistakes?? Yeah.. That’s a very important point I’d like to discuss here…. Some people MAKE mistakes and correct it… But some people learns from the mistakes of others as well…. They see them suffer and promise that they won’t make anyone suffer like that or at least they know consequences of the choices made by the people that made them suffer… These are the people who feel the pain of others as their own…. The choice is always ours,how we react to the situations we face.Whatever the situation is just remember that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
Some people are just REACTIVE instead of being PROACTIVE….
They don’t take any responsibility for what they say or do….. They aren’t willing to learn… For example: Some people treat their children the same way their own parents treat them…. They try to FORCE their decision on their children never realizing that using a new approach wouldn’t hurt… These people just aren’t willing to learn from their own or others’ mistakes and aren’t even willing to admit their very own mistakes and can never learn something and can not turn their weaknesses into strengths….
The depressing/heart-breaking moments ALWAYS teach us something good. Something that changes us to the core….. Those situations/trials moves us closer to Allaah.. If so then these trials are not trials instead such trails become blessings… Sometimes Allaah does not answer our duas just because HE wants us to have something even more better…. Allaah has a perfect plan for us. He never does it all at once, just step by step because he wants to teach us the ”walk by faith” not by sight only.. Allaah is a perfect planner we just need to TRUST HIS PLAN...It requires patience and A LOT of faith
Coz if we don’t… We can’t ever move on… I know it’s just too difficult to forget what people did to us… But we have no other choice we can’t just cry for the rest of our lives… Just forget what happened like it never happened… And MOVE ON.. Make dua for them whom you hate or envy.. Because Dua is a universal healer…
U have to learn to forgive… No matter how much hard it is…. And understand that NO ONE IS PERFECT…. For example
If you are a brother and you are finding a spouse with the looks of Barbie and have a Ph.D degree, will look after your family and raise your children and will earn in millions (Ye kuch zaida ho gaya :p) and you want her to obey you and you ALSO WANT her to have the character like that of Khadeeja (R.A)..
If you are a sister and you want a 6 feet, handsome muscular man.. Who would love you and you family, someone who would stand by your side and help you to raise your children, a guy who would earn in millions with 50 (It’s too much, let it be 3 :p) Ph.D degrees and you ALSO want him to have the character of Prophet Mohammad (P.B.U.H)…….
Then let me give you a good news my brothers and sisters that you can surly find such person. But for that you’ll have teleport yourself to a fictional world. Because you won’t get such person in this life! But in Akhira? Yes, insha’Allaah. But for that you’ll have to struggle, struggle for Jannah. But if you are already married learn to forgive your spouse and love her/him… Tell her/him how much you love her/him and how your life would be without him/her and try to learn and grow TOGETHER 🙂 May Allaah help you achieving Jannah in shaa’ Allaah